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The other day I made a rare visit to the mall to see one of my favorite salespeople and pick up some shoes. I was telling him how I was fairly happy with a pair of Blahniks I had just bought from him, with a low block heel (this pair, review coming soon), but that I was also considering a pair of Teva(!) flatforms. And another pair of Birkenstocks. Because the Blahniks weren’t that comfortable, you see, even though they were quite comfortable, it’s just that I couldn’t see myself walking miles in them. And that’s when he finally said something which I’ve been thinking about ever since: “You can’t expect everything you buy to be super comfortable and practical,” he said. “There’s a time and place for everything.”
I know it sounds totally obvious, but it was a revelation for me. For some reason I’ve gotten in a huge comfort rut. Part of it is living in California, part of it is because I’m pregnant and whaley and part of it is because I spend so much of my time chasing around a toddler. But my salesperson was right, that at some point I reached a point where I basically expected all my clothes to be as comfortable as pajamas (which is stupid, because I still change into pjs right when I get home).
So I’ve decided that I’ve got to make my bones with being a little uncomfortable…partially because it’s a slippery slope and if not otherwise, I’m going to totally turn into that person who wears a robe out in public. And I always feel better when a little “put together” – it’s a nice to feel like you’re wearing pretty clothes, especially after wearing sacks like I’ve been favoring the last few months. So, after giving some thought, here are some items I’m saying YES to…and some which still remain a NO:
- Dresses which are not entirely a shapeless sack/one size fits all but actually show some definition
- Pants and shorts with buttons and zippers (not just elastic waists…omg can’t believe I actually have to write this down)
- Jumpsuits which may take me 10 more seconds to deal with when I have to go to the bathroom
- Shoes with long straps which are super cute but require some wrapping
- Strapless bras (especially not while breastfeeding)
- Shoes that pinch within first hour (Not ten minutes. Solid hour)
- Itchy fabric, I cannot stand this
- Handheld lady bags (A few more years please)
I’d love to hear from all of you – how comfortable are you with being just a little bit “uncomfortable” in your clothes? You probably don’t expect everything to fit like pajamas, like I do….but where do you draw the line?